I hear a lot about “reality” from my clients who are learning about manifesting. They can see some areas in their life that they can change, and then there are those areas that feel out of the realm of “choice”. The statements I hear all begin with a “but” and then I hear: “I have to pay taxes…I have to pay bills…I have to make dinner for my family…I have to exercise…” It feels like there is no “choice” here, doesn’t it? Like you can’t manifest something different. Remember, manifesting is about learning you are not a victim in your life, you do have choices in everything. Anytime you use the phrase “have to”, it is your signal that you are using victim language and there is a shift that needs to happen.
First of all, the “reality” is you don’t have to pay taxes. You don’t have to pay bills. You don’t have to make dinner. You don’t have to exercise. You choose all of those things. Now, perhaps you choose to do them because the alternative is so disagreeable it doesn’t feel like you have a choice. “I choose to pay taxes because I don’t want to go to jail.” “I choose to pay bills because I don’t want to lose my home.” “I choose to cook dinner because I don’t want my family to be hungry.” “I choose to exercise because I don’t want to be fat.” There is still a choice and even if you use these words, which still feel negative, you are at least making these “disagreeable acts” choices. Just changing the language takes it out of the victim place. I think there is another step that brings it into the unbelievable joy realm; the place we are all craving to attain. Let’s change your perspective and your paradigm.
“Are you kidding me? I pay only a small portion of my salary and I get to support a government that gives me a safe place for my children to live, great schools, paved roads, clean sewers, emergency services, and even more that I am unaware of! That is fabulous!” “I love my utilities! I can actually flip a switch and have lights in my home. I can turn a knob and my oven warms. I have such an abundance of water I can actually pour gallons of it, warmed for me, over my head to get clean every day or just fill a container to sit in for my pure pleasure. I can even warm or cool my home at my whim for my own personal comfort.” “I so easily feed my family. I can’t believe the choices I have when I walk into a grocery store and it is all there for me to use if I so desire! I can even easily find pre-prepared foods so I don’t need to cook or go to a restaurant and experience food from any place in the world!” “I am so grateful to have an amazing body that can move and exercise. I love to help my body feel great and healthy! I also have easy access to any kind of equipment I desire or just enjoy the outside because it is safe for me to exercise there. I just love living in my body!”
So, how does that feel? You always have a choice and one of those choices you can make is to not only be grateful for what you have but also to choose your attitude.